In Need of Advice - Thank You in Advance (1st Pregnancy)
Hello! I am a 24 year old with a big predicament. I got married two years ago and was with him for a year before then. We tried every day to have a baby almost from the moment we met. After getting married we fought so much and decided we to separate because it was getting out of hand. A few months after, I met this great guy. We have been dating now for 6 months and he's always here for me from moving, to new jobs and is always asking how to lower stress for me. He knows I'm separated and still wants to be here with me.
This being said, I just found out this morning I'm pregnant after assuming that I was unable to get pregnant. I have been completely honest with my boyfriend- telling him my period is late but he thinks it's just stress causing it to not come. He's told me he doesn't want a child ever and I don't know if that's because I'm the first girl he's ever said I love you to (maybe he has never wanted one with anyone else) or he just in general doesn't like kids. We didn't use protection and he full out - TMI - came inside me fully aware of what he was doing so I have mixed emotions about his words.
After always wanting children, thinking I couldn't get pregnant and previously trying - I could never bring myself to harm this baby. I know I could miscarriage and I've had my hopes up so many times before that now I am just grateful I am and am taking each step slowly.. but honestly I know it may come down to us breaking up due to him disagreeing with my decisions. At this point if he does get upset at me and wants me to abort the baby, I, myself would break up with him.
Is this selfish? I also work minimum wage in a stressful environment, should I tell my manager right away? I am keeping it from family for now and telling the father when I see him on Friday because it's a conversation worth having in person.
Please give me advice on ways to go about this, pregnancy tips, etc.. I never thought I would or could get pregnant and part of me is so happy and also terrified
Thank you in advance 💕
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