What should I do?

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Okay, so, I'm 19, me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 2 years now. Before we met, I was a complete virgin, I hadn't done anything with anyone, ever. So I wasn't comfortable talking about sex stuff, and I didn't really know what I liked in bed. Now I do know, and I'm a lot more comfortable with talking about it... But not properly with my boyfriend- weirdly, I can tell him the kinky stuff I like, but not the stuff I need to get me off. Long story short, in the nearly two years we've been together, I've orgasmed twice. How can I get better at telling him what I need to orgasm, without hurting his feelings, or revealing that he's only made me cum twice? 
Thanks in advance ladies!

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You were a"Complete virgin" I didn't know that there are 1/2, 1/3 or 1/4 virgins out  there.🤔 Anywhoooo, just simple talk to him that's the only way to solve your problem.

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Girl, I'm 25 and my current boyfriend is the first person to actually get me off. Never knew what I was missing out on. And I'm still learning things to say. How to talk dirty etc. I feel so awkward when I try and talk dirty. 😂 the best thing to do, is how that one person said - give him praise. Let him know when he does something you like. But don't fake it or else he'll keep doing the same old boring things. Tell him you want to try new positions. I love it when my boyfriend stands up and picks me up, that's one of my best orgasms, but it shouldn't only be him doing the work. You've said you've only ever gotten off twice. Well. What can you do differently to get off? Do you ride him? Because you'll be in control if your on top.

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An episode of sex and the city addressed this well with kissing technique I think. Fellas love positive reinforcement...so you could tell him stuff during the act like "I really love it when you..." "It feels so good when you..." "Could you do that thing...it makes me cum so hard..."

He'll love hearing about his good works, and as long as you keep the praise up, he'll likely keep repeating what he was doing to get those praises. Also...do yourself a favor and don't fake it. If you've been faking it, he likely thinks he's amazing. So, if you have been, stop, and if/when he asks if something was different, he might even ask what he can do to get you there.

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My bf has never done anything before me. And after 2 years he is still nervous to talk about what he wants to do in bed like trying new things like he whispers it lol I had to teach him. But I don't push it I just casually bring it up when we are doing something else so he doesn't feel like I'm putting him on the spot. If we talk about him trying something new it usually doesn't happen right away it takes him a couple weeks for him to get past his nerves and comfort zone and do it without me asking lol and I'm 25 and he will be 26.

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"I read this article today... (insert what you want him to do here)... wanna go try it?? (Wink for good measure) lol! Good luck!!

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