No one has time AF

So that crotch monster AF is or was or might....who knows... Show up today. No sign of her yet and no normal clues of her trying. My husband and me just bd and he said WAIT UP....what's the deal you aren't dry, or too wet, or anything and its never like this I said well shut up and lets go geez... Anywho cleaned up and now I'm just waiting... And waiting... And waiting. My cervix was opened and usually the day of or close to my pms time I don't want none of that, so I'm confused just as much as he is. My test was a bfn this a.m so before I go buy any I'm waiting to see if things change. This will be my 2nd pregnancy... If I'm prego....so I'm not expecting the same as 9 years ago. I did however notice some discharge that was clean and not infection like and wasn't normal for this time of the month. So fingers crossed that we get our bfp. I'm still thinking glow is off a day or so. Anyone else with me on this?

Update....I woke up with tolerable cramping after I tested and got my negative. I've been up and down all day with these twinges and cramps, the haven't been back the past few hours. Still having discharge, had a dizzy nauseated spell earlier and that was the last bad cramp I had. Now they are super duper light and barely noticeable.