don't know what to do??

Question

So my intuition is very strong..a few weeks ago I kept having a feeling that my bf was lying to me, I brought it up multiple times that I felt like he was keeping something from me and he knew how much I hated being the gf in the dark. I then found out myself  that my bf was lying to me about smoking and having more people over at his place than what he originally told me. 
I still have not forgave him completely bc lying is a big thing for me. I'm not mad about him doing it even though I find smoking nasty I'm more angry about the lying..so I gave him an ultimatum. If he ever lies again we are done. (We have been together for almost a yr and a half) recently I found messages on his phone with a group message of guys that he wanted to "H clap" this girl and that if he "didn't make out with this girl by the end of the night that he would be a failure"  and how much he liked her boobs and ass. this girl is someone he has been friends with for years and has came up to his place multiple times but is supposedly talking to one of his friends that also hangs around. He says it's just guy talk and that he was drunk but I am very hurt by this and don't know if there is enough trust built back for me to believe him about this "guy talk". I told him that they were very disrespectful towards me and I will not accept it...I just don't know what to do or what to think...

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Your intuition doesn't lie. I'll be honest, I'm not even the one in this relationship and I'm really uneasy about what's going on. These are all red flags. If he's lying to you in different ways then where does it end? I'm not saying to leave him because that's a decision you ultimately have to make, but I'd definitely think long and hard about whether this is something you're willing to put up with for potentially forever.

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Uhh no ✋ rule one, don't be with someone who can even talk about a girl like that or disrespect you to his friends. You should be his queen he should putting you on the highest pedestal. Eff him get someone better who won't talk about doibg stuff other girls behind your back. He's literally planning to cheat drunk or not don't stand for that.

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Guy talk or not it's disrespectful and I would dump his ass

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No way. The lying is enough to piss me off, why not just be honest? He has more to hide, clearly. And then all that about the girl?? That is so disrespectful and in no way "guy talk" and drunk or not, that's not okay. When my bf gets drunk he calls me and tells me how much he loves me and I'm the girl for him and stuff and then proceeds to text me about it. But never before has he ever talked about wanting a girl like that, and if he did he knows how quick I'd be out. That does not fly. How would your bf feel about you talking about a guy that way?

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