Divorce brought us back together

So I've been considering divorce since I had mine and my husband's son. But everybody told me and every forum I read said not to make a decision like that within a year after having a child, that your hormones are still out of wack and you're under alot of new stress. Well, I decided that it wasn't my hormones, my husband wasn't right for me anymore. The way we both acted to each other was awful, we treated each other like we hated one another, not like a loving couple. He was demanding and controlling, lashed out and said rude things. And I was easily irritated. I had such little patience for him. So after one of our largest fights this past week, I sat down and filled out online divorce forms. But before pressing submit I went and sat down with him. During our fight he had said he was done with me (as he always does when he lashes out in anger), so I calmly asked him if he meant it. He was still upset so he just snapped "yup, done." I just said "okay, that's fine, I've already filled out the divorce papers, you just have to do the interview with me and it's over with" he responded with "do it." Quick and hateful. I asked him to please speak to me like an adult, for our son's sake, so this could be easy for us all. He agreed and we sat and discussed who would take what, custody agreements, money etc. It was the most calm and collected conversation we'd had in a very long time. And finally, it set in that I was serious. His eyes teared up and he asked if I would miss him and if I still loved him. I shrugged and told him I might have if he hadn't been so disrespectful with me. He asked if my mind was made up. I told him that I had a deal with myself, his response to the mention of divorce would be my decision. And he was hateful and said do it. So this was the decision. He choked up, fighting back tears "Marissa I never thought you were serious. If I'd known I wouldn't have said do it, I was just upset. Tell me what I can do to change your mind. Tell me the man you need me to be" I pointed out all of his actions that had lead me to this. As well of my own if course. But I reminded him that I wasn't asking him to change. I was asking for a divorce. He cried and hugged me and told me he would be a different person. Those who know my husband would never guess he'd ever cry or plead for me to stay. He's just not the sensitive type at all. This pained me to see him like this for the first time ever. We laid there hugging all night and didn't say another word about it. But since then we've acted like a new couple again. We smile at eachother. We laugh and make jokes. We flirt and kiss on eachother. I laugh at his mistakes instead of getting irritated, and he only has kind words for me now. We sit and talk like human beings again. We haven't been like this since before I was pregnant. It's like falling in love all over again. And I truly feel we may be recovering from what I thought was over. I feel happy again. And I think he does too. If we'd never discussed life apart I don't think this would've happened. Online divorce papers saved my marriage. 😁