marriage is hard.. can I get some advice?

Question

I've been married for almost a year now and it seems like things are getting harder. My husband literally throws a fit if I don't have sex with him every time he asks. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood. Do I really have to force it every time? I love having sex with him but he wants it every day.

Today I had to do some chores and only had a few hours to get them all done and he wanted to have sex when I'm trying to focus and clean. He just storms off and takes it personal like I think he's not attractive. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I feel like we shouldn't be having these problems this early in marriage.

Any advice is appreciated, thanks.

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Tell him if he helps you finish the chores you'll be more receptive to sex

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Communicate with him about it. Tell him you find him attractive but sometimes, you are not in the mood. Never promise to do it later then don't. That's just asking for a bigger blow up. Same with using sex as a bargaining tool/weapon. It'll just lead to fighting and resentment.

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I deal with this. Sometimes u gotta swat them away and promise sex later then make sure u fall asleep before they do. Its like the nymphomaniac curse. On the bright side, look at how turned on you make him. Trust me, no sex is better than too much.

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So we all can relate that we don't always want it....but afterwards it ends up being a good idea! I've experienced that you may not align at different times if your life yours may go up and his go down but being rejected really sucks...both ways

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So I have to deal with this but the other way around. My husband is the one who days no to me. And honestly it hurts, I really feel so unattractive every time he says no. So I totally get where your husband is coming from. Personally I don't say no unless its like extreme circumstances like I feel really crappy. But that's because my mom gave me this advice when I first got engaged, and it was don't say no unless you just can't. She said thats the secret to a long lasting marriage.

marriage is hard.. can I get some advice?

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