I am a little bit nervous about this, and it might sound ignorant of me, but I really don't think this happens and if it does, not that often? But I am wondering if "rape" occurs in the lesbian/gay community too? I always told my girlfriend I didn't like being fingered and never let her fingers in me. She convince me to do weed for the first time, but she didn't explained to me I was gonna feel so much and not have a good judgement. We started having sex and she would touch me. I would "come back" sometimes and realize we were having sex and it remembering it. The last time I looked at her and asked her if we were having sex and she said yes. I realized she was touching me, but it hurt and I asked her if she was fingering me ans she said she had just put the top of her fingers because I would push her hand towards my vagina, and she didn't know what to do even though she knew I never wanted that and never liked it. She said she thought I wanted it... do you think she was confused about it and she was high as well or she had another intention?