What do I say?

I have a fourth degree vaginal rip which put me on back on bedrest for a few weeks. I am doing a lot better now but it is still pretty bad.

Anyways, my mother inlaw has been wanting to come visit but I haven't been up to hosting and I am breastfeeding, which she was against. She is trying to play victim by telling my husband how much we hurt her feels by not letting her visit. After hearing her say how pale, white and pasty my son is and her other racial remarks, plus not being healed yet. I don't know if I want her involved either.