Is it weird that I haven't always wanted kids?

Question

I'm going to start by saying I'm 32 and have only made up my mind on wanting kids two years ago.  Before that I didn't feel I was financially stable, and honestly the idea of taking care of a little creature that relies solely on me scared me before 30.

The reason I bring this up is most of my friends have kids. I was speaking with one and told her my husband and i want to start trying next year so we will have been married for a year first (we didn't live together so it's taking some time to adjust), but if it happens before that we would still be happy. She thinks i shouldn't have them because I didn't grow up wanting to be a mother like "everyone other woman on the planet".

Basically my question is am I weird for taking so long to want them?

Answer

No. I am 33 and until a few years ago I didn't think I was ready to have kids because financially I wasn't stable. If the app is somewhat right I am now 4w3days with our first, also I am an only child (my experience around babies is little to none) which has always played a factor with my decision of whether I was ready or not. 
I am exited about seeing the positive and extremely anxious just waiting for the first appointment (and all the things I think could happen between now and then). But at least in my family many of my cousins are in the same boat of starting after 30.

Answer

I was very adamant about not wanting kids. I got pregnant with my first born by accident, and even as I was pregnant I wasn't as attached as I thought most pregnant women would be. But I have to say, as for myself, it was the best decision ever. You know when you know. If that makes sense. Don't let anyone else guilt you for not wanting kids until now. It's your choice and your choice alone.

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I can't speak for what's normal, but I'm happily pregnant for the first time at 32 after years of saying I never would be (and honestly so; I quit  fantasizing about motherhood around the same time I put down my toy dolls as a girl). My husband and I planned this pregnancy, but when we married we didn't want kids--he had a vasectomy. In my 20's I was a mess--drinking too much, poor relationship decisions, not stable at all. The thought of my body changing and having to give up my freedom was unthinkable. But I grew through different life experiences, and when I got married I slowly started to long for a family. My thoughts about what's worth doing with my one life slowly (and painfully) changed. My husband came around too and we scheduled a reverse vasectomy. 7 months later I got pregnant! We are not normal by any stretch but I do think it's common to change your mind about kids, especially when you hit certain cultural and personal milestones (marriage, turning 30, etc). And thank God for that... growing and changing is something to be proud of!

Is it weird that I haven't always wanted kids?

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