So I have a family member who I am quite close to whom I love dearly and often ask for advice. Sometimes however she offers advice unsolicited, tells me/my husband off if she doesn't like our decision or, just forces us into doing what she wants. To give you an example she often tells me how to arrange our finances (but I appreciate he advice a lot of her ideas are really good), recently she told us off over the house we chose to buy, she once forced my husband to enrol both of our children into a nursery (we did end up sending the older one for a month because we both agreed it maybe a good idea but it didn't work out so we stopped) or bringing people to our house who are banned from it k owing that I won't turn her out and my husband isn't at home to do it. Now I really do think most of the time that she does this out of love but about 10% of the time o can't help whether she does it out of arrogance or in order to benefit herself. I'm always happy to hear advice even when I don't ask for it and I don't really care about being told what to do because she just doesn't know about a lot of things and that's fine. I don't expect everyone to be wise all of the time or even most of the time. But I really do not like the feeling that I am being manipulated. Never have. I try to reason through that it's not really manipulation if I am aware of it and permit it but it is. I am also quick to anger when it comes to this. Which is an unpleasant way to feel. Do you all think I'm overreacting? I think I might be. It seems a bit unreasonable to be angry over what I do think are good intentions.