My husband is a very hands on father to our five week old daughter, he loves her soooo much and is a great help, cleaning the home, cooking all my meals, changing all her diapers and taking care of our groceries and errands as I recover. He does more than his share as a parent. The only issue is, while he's on paternity leave, he's much too controlling, and he's making me feel bad about my ability to be a mother. As a new father, he's become a terrible husband.

Our daughter loves to suck and we sometimes offer her the pacifier (sparingly as we know the risks of dental issues, ear infections, and dependency) every time she cries and tries to suck her fingers (she's a thumb sucker since birth) he says she's hungry and blames me for not producing enough milk. He tells me I'm useless and that she's still hungry even though she's been growing healthily and gained 2lbs since birth. Sometimes even after I fed her and she's unlatched (we don't have breastfeeding issues) he tells me she's hungry and he will feed her extra formula.

I'm really really burnt out, I'm still recovering and need physical therapy for my pelvic pain. I know my daughter well and don't want her to overeat but any time she's crying and needs to suck, he's saying I'm not producing enough and I should be pumping. He keeps asking me, how do you even know she's getting enough? You're going to dry up.

She is gaining weight and has many wet and soiled diapers! Why is he constantly on my case about my nursing?

How do I talk to him about this? Before the baby he was an amazing husband, but now that she's here he's completely obsessed with her and has been a really difficult spouse.