So because I don't want to blow things up even more I can't post this on facebook so this is my only other option. So here it goes my fiance and I have been together for a little over 2 years been living together for 1 year and getting married in 2 months. I have three kids from different relationships and he has two children from different relationships and I am 14 weeks pregnant with our first. So his oldest child she has some behavior issues and this has cause a lot of friction in these last two years my family hates her because they don't understand her and I have stood up for her missed family functions since my family doesn't want her around. I treat as if I had given birth to her myself with that being said she gets the same discipline as my own children. This has caused issues between his mother and me. To the point I have told his mother I'll just let her walk all over me since they think I'm too harsh on her. What started this today is she is being grouchy and this started a fight between her and my youngest son. She stayed up all night watching music videos we turned on for his youngest. So my son is upset she got special treatment because he stayed up one night and watched tv and got in trouble. Our rule during summer is the kids have to have their tv's on music channel with no video by 11pm. So my son seen that she got to do it and didn't get in trouble and when I said something to my fiance about it he was like well the boys done it. And it pissed me off and when I said something to his mom about it when she asked how the kids were doing today she agreed that it shouldn't hurt anything for her to do it since the boys did. BUT THE BOYS GOT IN TROUBLE AND I AM JUST SUPPOSED TO LET HER SO IT'LL BE FAIR WHEN SHE WASN'T EVEN HOME WHEN IT HAPPENED. Yes I am extremely pissed and don't know what else to do.