ugh my my in laws

so basically me and my husband have been together for 4 years married for 3. we are a interracial couple. his family did not understand respect or boundaries for certain words i really feel is inappropriate especially if i dont use said words. so basically after we got married our marriage was rocky because they didnt want to give up the n word because they had been saying it before me and the hubby were married and felt like i should be ok with it. fast forward we have a kid together going on 2 now my little angel and i told him i didnt want certain family members around her because they are perverts and they are disrespectful especially to me. so he agreed. Then all of a sudden his mama comes in talking shit oh but they are family and they should be around her reguardless how much they disrespected me. so me and the hubby fought for the longest finally he gave in to my side. Now his mom ignores our daughter which im ok with because she has my mother who spoils her. What really just erks nerve is this woman is posting pictures of my daughter on her fb page acting as if she is the greatest grandma in the world. i told my husband that shit bothers me because she is fake and she plays victim all time. so she is telling people we wont let her see our daughter when practically my husband begged her and faught her to come see our daughter and she still hasnt. maybe im being petty and bitchy but i dont like fake people especially when they involve my daughter into it.Then his father ignores him and im pretty sure its because we got back together (hubby cheated and the girl he was with didnt like black people so i was going to have full custody of our daughter plus other things were said and done which was going to cause him to lose his parental rights) but before that when we first got married his dad took him off his will and stopped talking to him. then when our daughter was born all of a sudden our daughter is his heart and joy but its like you know she is still half black right? like im her mother. so how can you disrespect me and do some faulty shit to your son for being with a black girl then turn around and want to be around the baby. my baby? sorry for long rant i cant talk to hubby about it because he breaks down every time. i know it hurts him and i even offered to divorce him so that he could be happy with "that" family but he turned me down said he would choose me over them. it just sucks to know that my in laws are crap.