Finally found some of the right words...

When you're chasing a girl, you have to understand: you're not always competing against other people. You're competing against her demons, her doubts, her fears. And they are strong from feasting on her soul for so long. They know how to get her attention, they've already gained her trust. You have to prove that everything she's been told isn't true. You have to be fiercer than the lies eating her alive. She has little left to give, but she will give if you earn it. You will never understand, but you must try.