Best-friend breakup?

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⚠️ This is a really long story so read at your own risk ⚠️ 
So me and my friend (let's just call her Betty) were really great friends up until this happened. Betty and her boyfriend (who we'll call John) we're sort of on bad terms. So, being a good friend, I wanted to help the two of them out. According to Betty, John had made her really upset and ignored her for a while, which set her off a little bit. So, I talked to John myself. He explained that he really likes Betty and doesn't want to lose her. From what I've heard, apparently John said that he doesn't deserve Betty. So, I spoke to John again and said this:

After I send Betty a screenshot of what I said to John, she got very upset. I explained to her that all I was trying to do was help her and John because I felt super bad that they were "fighting". Betty ignored me for a while and we talked a bit. I asked her why she hates me, and she claims that she doesn't, when clearly she does. And she told me that I'm crazy and she'll never forgive me. Stuff like that. I told her that I want to fix this and I don't want us to fight. So, her being her, she said that she doesn't wanna fix anything. She doesn't want me in her life anymore and now I'm super bummed because I lost my one and only best friend forever. She was the one person I could count on with everything. I trusted her with all my secrets. I loved her with all my heart and she leaves me in the cold. What do you guys think? What should I do?

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Hun you WAAAAAAAY overstepped boundaries here. If my friend did this I'd be pissed. The fast that your friend and bf are fighting are between THEM. It's not your business snd you shouldnt get involved beyond talking to your friend about it. Talking to her bf behind her back (I'm sure you didn't mean it that way but that's what it looks like to her) is a major misstep and very disrespectful. I'd apologize.

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From my personal experience, the best friend will always choose their SO until they learn on their own. I don't get involved with best friend/boyfriend arguments because it's always been drama. My ex best friend thought me and her ex were into one another due to HIM texting me. Despite me showing her all the screenshots of our convo, she didn't want me to talk to him and I respected that because I've known her longer than I knew him and clearly, I didn't want any problems. When they'd fight, I'd listen and tried to understand her. I would point it out to her when he was in the wrong (at least from the perspectives she gave me) and she never listened until he cheated. By this time, we weren't friends anymore. But one day your friend will come around. She will either see you were right or if not, oh well. You tried to warn her and be there. As sucky as this may sound, friends come and go. I KNOW. I've lost some very close friends that I went through a lot together with, but that's okay. You win some, you lose some. Maybe she wasn't meant to be there forever. Maybe she was just meant to be a lesson for you. But don't give her the satisfaction of having you beg for the friendship. If she doesn't want it, forget her. You'll find a new friend.

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I didn't read it all I just thought it was funny that you said we were gonna call her Betty but your text clearly said Brooke. Idk why I was tickled by that. 😂

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I personally don't tell friends about arguments between myself and my SO. And ive learned over the years to stay out of other people's relationship drama. It tends to just cause more problems...I'd honestly suggest apologizing to your friend...if she wanted you to talk to him she probably would have asked you to. Also, your screenshot shows the real name..not sure if you meant for that to happen or not😜 best of luck to you!

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You overstepped boundaries big time. That was not ur job. You talk to her but dont talk to the bf about breaking up.

Best-friend breakup?

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