So I'm writing this as my panic attack is setting in. Recently my husband and I have been struggling financially. He got a pay cut at work and hasn't called DHHS to let them know so his ex is still racking in over $500 from us a month (and still asks for more money 😒 but I'm getting off track)..it's hurting.shes moving back and we are hoping to get that changed now that his son will be in the same state and we can do more with him but anyway. We recently decided to ttc (this was when money wasn't so tight) but now I'm having second thoughts.. We have had his son all summer and my huz has still been paying child support during that time which has screwed us this summer. I don't want to bring a baby into a financial issues but I don't think it's fair that we have to change our plans to pay her to not work and live off the state, her husband and us... Ive been having panic attacks all week about it.. I want a baby and so does my huz... but I don't want to be screwed... I don't think I'd be so upset about it if she wasn't a horrible person and only care about how much money she is getting from us.. I just dont know what to do and how to not be angry...