In-laws and recently returned Husband

In March, when I was 5 months pregnant, my husband announced he was leaving me, that he didn't and hasn't loved me or ever been physically attracted to me. We already have a one year old daughter together. I found out he has had a girlfriend on the side for a few weeks that he met at the gym. I was heartbroken, and he just didn't care.

He completely left everything for me to take care of and moved in with his parents. I lost 25 Ibs in the first few weeks and had to take leave off work due to stress on the baby.

No one in his family reached out to me or was concerned at all, which really hurt because I was pregnant with their granddaughter. I contacted his parents to ask them to speak to him about cutting my grass, which I was struggling to do on my own. His moms reply was "marriages don't always work out, but I'll pray for you ". And that was it.

I've always had a difficult relationship with her (far too much to detail!). I didn't do the housework good enough and didn't do things the way she thought they should be done. She told him she knew this marriage would never last because I'm Catholic. They're a Christian family, and she's always so quick to point out was the Bible says, which is why I was really surprised she was okay with her son walking out on his wife and daughters to be with his girlfriend. To her, it was only about his happiness. She wasn't concerned about the stress this was causing me and the damage it could have caused to our baby.

Fast forward to today, husband realized he was still unhappy after he left me, went to the doctors, and was diagnosed with severe depression. He got medication, and completely changed in a few weeks. He was the man I married. He has been apologizing for everything, and moved back in to our home. By no means is everything okay again, as we are still dealing with the affair and betrayal, but we are working on it.

I am due to have the baby September 6, and I still haven't heard from his parents. Both he and them are expecting to be at the hospital when the baby is born. I am still so hurt by the way they treated me through all of this, and quite frankly, I don't want them there. They couldn't be there when I needed them, why should they get to be there when she's born? I don't want to deal with the stress of seeing them after giving birth.

I want to tell my husband they can come to our home once we are home, and I will stay upstairs while they visit. I am still trying to deal with the emotional mess my husband made of me for those four months, and am just not ready to deal with monster in laws again yet. My husband keeps saying I need to reach out to them to make this relationship better, but why? Quite honestly, after our entire ugly relationship, they've caused me more stress than anyone. Even after he left me, I still made her a Mother's Day gift from our daughter, and she couldn't wish me a happy first Mother's Day. Haven't I done enough trying?