So, my partner and I have been dating roughly two months. There is, I believe, a level of emotional connection between us, which I know I need to feel comfortable having sex. (I'm on the Ace spectrum but if you need specifics to better understand I'm Demi-Ace but even then it's just the "label" that fit me best.)

When we're getting handsy and intimate (meaning him fingering me, nipple play, fondling and basic dry humping) I'm completely at ease. I'm comfortable and that's something I'm not use to feeling with a bedmate so afterwards I start getting anxious for the next time I see him. In our relationship there hasn't been many deep talks or anything, it's mostly been Netflix and chill dates.

So my problem is more myself, I suppose, because I know my body wants sex but my head is saying: "No, not yet. What happens during or after? What if something changes? What if he dumps me because that's all he wanted?!"

Now, that last question is something I can't help but think, even though he hasn't given me a reason to believe he would. That may be my previous low self-esteem rearing its ugly head.

Any advice? Any, at this point, would probably be helpful!

Edit: This will be my first time and that's why I think I'm all over the place.