Do I have the right to be upset?

When I was 14, I was raped by my brother who was 27. He went to jail for 6 months. No one really hated him for it. My dad still talks to him, my siblings were the ones that gave him money in jail, they all are still very close. Not sure if they forgave Him or just didn't believe me. Anyways, I'm now 19.

It's my birthday and my dad called to say happy birthday and all that. He said we would go out next weekend and celebrate because this weekend he's going camping with all three of my siblings, all of their kids (like 9 of them) and their spouses. They are going boating, skiing, kyakying (however you spell it) having fires. They rented all kinds of fun stuff and I wasn't invited. But he was. I haven't seen my other brother of sister in 3 years. My daughter is 2 and has never met their kids. Yet he gets to go and have family time and be around all the kids. These types of things happen a lot.

So now it's my birthday and I'm crying because I feel so left out. It's like everyone forgets about me. My daughter didn't get to go to the family Easter because he was there. They have family pictures that I'm not in. I just honestly feel like I have no family. My dad isn't good with feelings so I can't tell him. I just don't know what to do. I try to talk to my husband about it but I don't get much from him other than "they are missing out"

I'm really not sure what to do.. ever since he did that to me, my entire family has kind of left me out of everything. I know it's hard for my dad because it's his son and he can't kick him out of his life but I just don't know.. my dads girlfriend says she knows he's sick and she doesn't let him alone with any kids. She says she watches every move he makes. I got over what he did to me. But I can't get over what they are doing to me..