So my mom is a smoker- always has been, smoked (on and off) while she was pregnant with me and always around me after- and because of that l... I was a very sick child and developed horrible breathing/lungs. I was in the hospital a lot and started breathing treatments when I was about 6.... better now- but will never be much of a marathon runner lol

Anyways.... so I'm about to pop (6 weeks left!) and I'm increasingly worried about my child being around my mom--- every time I see her (they live about 2 hours away) I can just smell her and her clothes and it makes me ill--- she's a wonderful mom and I don't want to cause any issues but when my son is born, I don't want him to immediately go to her if she reeks of smoke! I don't want her visiting my house If she is going outside every hour to smoke and then coming back in to hold him.... I feel like I sound like such a bratty daughter but I don't know how to not harbor this resentment --- we've talked in the past about her quitting but she never follows through and I don't want to hurt our relationship but I just don't know how to address this!