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Your son. You're not married. 100% use YOUR last name!!! :)
I don’t want our child to have his last name..
I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant and trying to decide on a baby name (which last name to use)
I’m no longer dating the baby’s father and our child will end up having two first names if I use his last name. He asked me if we can use his moms maiden name buttttttttt I kinda don’t wanna 🙊
The names we have picked out would go well with his moms maiden name but he constantly makes hints that he doesn’t wanna be in the child’s life. He’s just staying for now because he doesn’t wanna be put on child support. I feel like my child would wonder why it’s last name is different from mine and it could possibly cause a heart break when he ends up walking away 😢
Am I wrong/selfish for wanting giving our child my last name? 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
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Because you guys are not married, alot of people do not give the fathers last name. Whatever you decide it can go either way, the child is still apart of him so just by not giving him the fathers name does not erase him regardless if he chooses to be in the child's life or not. That is why it is so important to have marital bonds, because things like this are less likely when you have a more stable committed person involved.
Ke
"this is the importance of marital bonds" - I'm sorry but that comes off as incredibly preachy and judgmental. If someone isn't dad material or doesn't want to be in the picture, marital bonds won't change that.
He
Bullshit. People get divorced alllll the time. Being married doesn't make a bond any stronger. It just makes it financially harder to leave.
Sh
I can understand that, sorry you experiencing that. It is probably much better in that case. I hope things work out for the best and while I know it is out of your control what he does, he will eventually see that it is the child that suffers! If he wants to leave let him go, he doesnt seem to want the responsibility that comes along with a family and marriage. You deserve that and your child does as well.
No no no no no. You give the baby YOUR last name!!! You're not married so it's no reason to attach his name to the baby. That child will be associated with you forever whether dad stays or not. Give the baby your name! Also if you have another child in the future, you don't want all of your kids having different names. Keep your children under your name unless you are married because that's when everyone is tied together.
I wasent married for my first child and she has her fathers last name just because you r not legally married does not mean u don't have a stable environment we had been together three years and now expecting baby #2 married for a year now and about to make 5 years together so just because you don't have a paper saying your married dosent mean anything!!!!!! In your case because he dosent seem to want to be there I would give the baby your last name
Keeping the kids last name the same as yours will make your life so much easier as a primary care giver. If you have different last names, sometimes you need written consent to travel outside the country. You also might have issues with school, hospital care, registering them in things, etc. Usually the last name is proof enough if guardianship (which is silly I know) but if you don't have that you sometimes have to prove it in other ways (birth certificate).
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