am I not respecting myself or...

So my mom thinks I'm not respecting myself with my boyfriend. I have been spending the night with him 2 time a week only the days I get to see him. I'm really confused because my boyfriend told me he wanted to move in with me but every time he said it unsure and now a month of sleeping over I asked him what was the unsurety and he says he wants to be stable enough cause he has 2 part time jobs I told him that this was my decision that I am ready to get my own even if it's not with him right away and so he is looking for a stable job and now my mom says that maybe he doesn't wants to move in bc I sleep over she think I should get him to pay for my bills and i mean i don't like asking for money to anyone I only do it when really I have to and maybe he is not constantly giving me money but he helps me mentally like pushes me to do better and not to care what anyone says he takes care of me what do you guys think am I completely wrong about this update*** my boyfriend lives with his parents he doesn't have his own place