Advice on uncircumcised problem?

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My husband isn't circumcised. It's never been an issue until now. Pretty much every single time we have sex - which is VERY rarely to my dismay - his frenulum tears and is very painful for him. According to him that's the main reason why we hardly have sex. I think it's that and a combo of low sex drive/possible low testosterone and him being tired pretty much all the time. Anyways, if anyone has ever had this issue, what are some tips?! We're TTC (even though once a month won't do much) so using a condom is not really an option. He doesn't seem keen on going to the doctor about it and I'm pretty sure he'd pass on adult circumcision. Some please help my marriage and my sex life. Any advice is appreciated. I want to have sex and intimacy with my husband. This sucks. I'm attaching a pic for reference if some of you all aren't familiar.

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Seems like he should really see a Dr & see what options are out there.

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Honestly the Dr is his best bet. He may not want to go but if he can't enjoy sex either he may want to have adult circumcision my husband isnt circumcised but has never torn I guarantee if he did he would see a doctor about options

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Not enough lubrication and he's not letting it heal properly.

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I'm thinking lots of lube. You're not being turned on may impact your vag lube. Hopefully this helps.

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Wasnt this why Marie Antoinette and Louis couldn't do it either?

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Ex husband had the same issue. Only he was tearing all the way around. After the third time the doc said no more, it's time for an adult circ. They were worried about pain on his end and infections on both ends. So he went in, an hour later he was out and home. No sex for like 4 weeks or something. He said the first day the pain was pretty decent, after that it wasn't bad. He also said sex felt much better after all was said and done.

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I had this problem with an ex. And honestly, it never got better. You have to be gentle and easy. Rough sex goes out the window

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Lots of lube? Preseed or conceive plus since you're ttc. Def talk to him about the likelihood of getting pregnant without regular sex and that he should prepare himself for at least 3 times over your fertile week. If I were you I'd do opk to time the sex accordingly. Maybe do oral until he's close then hop on for the last few minutes to reduce the friction? If he's not willing to see a doctor to help it that's all I can think of. Maybe he needs to moisturize that area daily to build up its elasticity? Slower sex?

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ouch! your poor husband. and poor you! defo see a doctor!

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I know you want to have more sex, but I got pregnant twice after only having sex once during my fertile window. It can be done, you just have to be really good at keep tracking your cycle. Hopefully he'll agree to go to the doctor soon!!

Advice on uncircumcised problem?

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