Do you ever let your baby cry it out? (I guess it could be called self soothing)

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When you baby is being fussy and there's nothing you can do about it or your busy doing something, do you ever just lay them down and leave them be. Do you let your baby self soothe themselves? If so how often? Do you feel like a bad mom for doing it? Or do you think it's bad parenting not to do it?

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It's harmful to an infant to be left in distress, I always comfort my baby. It's my job I'm her mother. Her only way of communication is crying. That's a horrible thing to do, my baby knows when she needs me I'm there. Until they can verbalize what's wrong It's not ok to leave them distressed and crying.

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It depends on how old they are. There may be certain times where you have to let them cry just a little to get something done or to keep your sanity when they're colicky.

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Absolutely not. I find it to be cruel and unnecessary to make a child cry like that. They're unable to tell you what's wrong so in my mind it's pretty much ignoring an issue they may be having. They're not crying to be annoying. They're crying because they need something.

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I had s good baby he never cried unless he was hungry or needed to changed, I pray my new baby (due any day now) is the same I don't think I can deal with the crying I might lose my mind.

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Depends on age! I didn't start allowing my son to cry for longer periods until around 8 months when he showed signs of actually preferring to self soothe. I HAD to do it one night because I could tell he was manipulating me and nothing I was doing was helping and when he would see me he would pull up on his crib to stand and then throw himself back but if he didn't see me he would just kind of crawl around and whimper until he fell asleep. I had to do yoga downstairs to keep my mind busy and not go scoop him up because it killed me. I will usually let him cry for about 10-15 mins tops, check on him, hug him and lay him down and try one more time, if he doesn't fall asleep I'll pick him up and usually he needs something of some sort even if it's just me for snuggles I don't mind Lol . He's pretty good about self soothing now, I felt like shit about it the first handful of times but now knowing that it helps him (most the time me helping only makes it worse and he gets frustrated) is what has helped me be okay with it. I don't think it'll ever stop killing my soul though.

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I don't necessarily think it's bad parenting but my daughter is a year and a half old and I never have her cry it out.

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Only time I have done this is in the car when I'm stuck in traffic 😕

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I used to never let her cry but lately she has relied on my breast more than she needs to. So, if she wakes up early from a nap, or if she is just using my breast as a pacifier, I'll lay her down for her nap & let her cry. If it gets to the point where she sounds really upset I'll comfort her but she's gotten better at soothing since.

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we let my son cry when he just needs to sleep. it's never for more then a few minutes. if I held him everytime he needed a nap he would never sleep (won't sleep in arms)

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How old is the baby? I don't let my son cry it out yet since he's 5 months and I believe they can't "self soothe" until they're about 6 months. That being said he isn't colicky and I know that if you have a colicky baby you sometimes need to put them down and let them cry by themselves for your own sanity

Do you ever let your baby cry it out? (I guess it could be called self soothing)

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