This is gonna be long. First things first I want you all to understand that I am in no way bashing my in laws because I love them to death. When I was younger I went to the Mormon church despite the fact both my parents are atheist, mainly because all my friends went. Well after a few years when i was like 8 or 9 i stopped going because i had a hard time believing anything and i hated it. Well fast forward, im 21 now. My husband was raised a Christian. Believe me when I say this, my husband is a Die HARD Christian. He praises the lord and has read the bible atleast 3 times, prays every night, we attend all church activities etc. He went to a Christian School and everything. Well the last two years we've been actively going to his church, ive made lots of friends, were about to join the Choir, im finally starting to really believe in the Lord and it feels amazing. I really love the relationship we have and I really love our church.So anyways. Him and his family including his aunt and uncle that we live with grew up in a country called Tonga. Mostly all of them are Christian. Yeah there's a lot of Mormons there, but my point is his aunt and uncle know that he was raised Christian and should respect that. Well ever since i moved in with them its been hell with the whole religion thing. His aunt is constantly saying how we need to become LDS and convert. Shes ALWAYS having little "talks" with me when my husband isnt home like "well its your job as a wife to convert him and blah blah blah" plus shes always blaming everything that happens on the fact that were not LDS. So if we skip church ONE day and go to one of my family events then later on me and him have a small argument she emediately holds it over my head that its because we didnt go to church or the LDS church for that matter. Well i finally had enough told her one day very nicely but sturn that me and my husband are very happy and that Im not going to try to change him. He was taught and very much believes in his church and that i didnt marry him so i could change him. I love him for HIM and he is super religious, it almost defines him. Anyways this wasnt making me too upset because everything about his aunty i love. Like i love her and appreciate her helping us. They have been letting us stay here rent free. We dont want to move out because we did right after we got married and we messed up our finances. So we love it here. I just dont think it should have to come with those types of sacrifices. So Well the other day im down in my bedroom and all the sudden i get a call upstairs I go up and theres some lady ive never met in the living room and she introduces her self as the relief society president. Of course im nice, and friendly. But then her aunt is like "Shes gonna come by the house periodily to check up on you and to visit and also TAKE YOU TO CHURCH BE READY AT 12 EVERY SUNDAY" Omg guys. like wtf am i gonna do?? First of all. Im a grown 21 year old. I think i have the right to pick and choose which religion I follow. 2nd of all...I dont my own husband isnt going to convert either so what am i gonna say no?? Go to a different church than my husband?? Noooo. What would you guys say?? This relief society lady is clueless. Shes super nice but she has no idea that im not interested. Why is it so hard for me say no without feeling like a bitch? She called me today and said she showed up but no one was home. Like lady, I am working! Wtf?? Omg shes so nice though thats why this is so hard. Oh yeah one more piece of info yall need to know. My husband is in jail facing deportation for non criminal reasons. Please dont ask why or judge. But its not a matter that would cost our marriage because i am by his side every step of the way. I just wanted to add that just in case anyone wanted to know why hes not here. But other than the religion thing I have a very good relationship with his family and I love it here and they love me here too. .im just lost.