This is long, sorry! If you read this I appreciate it :)

Firstly, my partner and I are both 21.

I live with my parents, as I'm in school and this is essentially my only option right now.

SO back in February, I was in a different relationship for about a month. One night he came over to watch a movie, one thing led to another, and we had sex. B U T, we lost the condom wrapper. After looking for about 10 mins I just decided I'd look for it the next morning.

So the next morning I go downstairs to the living room and look all over. Like I'm flipping couch cushions n shit ok I was THOROUGH AF but I couldn't find it. AND THEN I remembered that my mom lost a puzzle piece the other day (she luv puzzles) so I'm like. Fuck.

The next time my ex bf came over, she was acting kind of super weird. I knew she knew. She knew I knew she knew. WE KNEW.

THEN a few days later she gets me alone in the car with her. We were on the highway. I could not escape. She asks me to pass her her purse. She starts digging through the purse, not saying a word. And I was like "she did fucking not" BUT BIIIIITCH SHE DID. She pulls out the condom wrapper and was like "what is THIS!!!" Like. She kept it. She kept it as proof. She kept it to GET ME?? So I'm like ??? Girl it's a condom wrapper oops sorry 💁🏻 and she LOOSES her mind. "You haven't even been dating a month!!! Disgusting!!!! In my house!! Go have sex in his car or something!!!" And all of that stuff. I just feel like the sex in the car thing was kind of weird as well, bc like, wouldn't that be worse than having sex at home??? Why would a mother suggest that as an alternative?!

I then mentioned that my sister and her boyfriend of 2 years were probably having sex, so why wasn't she worried about that? (I know they also had sex in the living room bc I walked in on them once). She then repeated that it is "disgusting" and was screaming "NO" at me. I then told her that we're using condoms, we're safe, and while I worded this way differently, I basically told her that my sexual partners have absolutely NOTHING to do with her.

So while I get that this is her house, the way she handled the situation and what she was saying made me believe that me having sex in general was the problem. Another point being that she straight up called my younger sister a slut for kissing her boyfriend at the time in his car (my mom saw ppl in a car in our driveway and literally ran out to see if it was my sister and knocked on the window to see what they were doing???)

SOOOO moving forward to now. I'm with a different guy, I REALLY like him. He's acc great. Solid 10/10. We have also been dating a month so far. A few days ago, I asked if I could have him over for the first time. She started basically yelling and in my opinion just being disrespectful and weird, saying things like "you better not do that again" and making my current partner and I out to be some crazy evil nymphomaniacs/satyromaniacs.

So again today, I invited him over. It was about 10:30pm. I asked my parents when they were going up to bed (as we only have one TV, we wouldn't have anywhere else to go in the house, we basically just started dating, and so I felt a bit nervous about my parents just sitting there with us), and my mom starts yelling at me again. She was like "WHY DOES IT MATTER?! HUH???! WHAT U GONNA DO??!??!!!" Like GIRL I'm just tryna get my cuddle on.

Another point being is that he also lives with his parents (I made a previous post about how his mom thinks I'm a ho 🙃). So like, while car sex is cool and all, I just wanna have sex with my boyfriend without feeling shamed for it.

Another important thing is that while my mom did say she doesn't want me having sex in the living room, which like, yeah??? She WILL NOT allow guys upstairs.

So my question is, do you think she's being unreasonable at all? Whether about me having sex in her house, or just in general?

Again, I understand that I do live in her home, and I understand how that's an uncomfortable thing, but I do think the way she handled it showed another reason for her being upset, and I think that all of these rules and assumptions she has are a little over the top for someone my age. This would also be a nearly impossible conversation to have with her, by the way, just because of how she is.

EDIT: I just want to make a couple things clear. First of all, as mentioned already several times, I UNDERSTAND THAT I LIVE IN HER HOME. And even if I don't agree with them, that does not mean I don't respect my parents. I have not done that since she brought it up the first time.

I made this post because I feel that regardless of what her reasoning behind this is, I feel that she is almost shaming me for the choices I make with my body, rather than where those choices are made. That is the only point of this post.

Another edit: just another quick point here which I forgot to add the first time. When my mom pulled out the condom wrapper and I mentioned that my partner at the time and I were having safe sex, I asked her "would you rather us not use one?!" To which she replied "I'd rather you not do it at all". She didn't say not in her house, not when she's home, etc. She said NOT AT ALL.

And another thing, I help pay the rent here. I buy my own groceries, I clean, I cook dinner for my family, I even help contribute to my parents car insurance/gas, when I don't even drive myself. It's not that I'm just living here for free and doing nothing. I do as much as time and money will allow me to.