So... This is the only place I really feel comfortable saying this... And not even that comfortable.. I just need to say it... In my younger days I used to drink heavily and talk to another guy while being with my at the time fiancé.. he found out, eventually forgave me. Years down the line, I came home from work, hub was already in bed.. we start fooling around, and he puts his hand down there, to feel it already wet, he grows angry and questions me if I'm fooling around, no I am not... He pretty much grabs me and makes me show him my.... So he can 'check'. Idk what he accomplishes with this.. but he is still upset... I tell him I'm not doing anything... Eventually believes me.... Idk... I kinda felt violated.. even tho we've been together for ten years... I know I have messed up... The thing is... My mom also uses to do this to me when I was young.. I always assumed it was cus she was molested, probably raped, and wanted to make sure I wasn't... Sorry for the book... I just wanted to say this to someone.... Thank you..