in laws 😫😫😫

this will be a long venting out for me.

I lived with now my husbands family for six years (long long personal story why it happened) we are together for 13 years yes, since in highschool. we lived in a foreign country before decided to move here in the United States. with nothing, we stayed with his family (up to this point) my husband just passed the RN Nclex last year and our lives is just starting. We got married 2016 and got pregnant, i gave birth last june. I had no issues with my inlaws, surprisingly while some of my friends vent their hearts out im just sitting there listening and and thinking how grateful i am to have a peaceful life with my inlaws.

Then my nightmare began! this is not their first grand child. I know the intentions are good i might be just being too sensitive but i feel like that my being a mother is out of the equation. Everything i say is ignored, everything i do is wrong. i feel like all rights are taken away from me. When i want something for my child there is a unsolicited and unnecessary comments. my husband wants to move out for my own sake but to be honest i need all the help i need i know i need to suck everything up and deal with it but i just cant do this anymore. i dont know where my stand will be. I wanted to get out of here but i dont want to live in an appartment we are trying to save money to buy a house. i dont want to waste money on that.

second, my sister in law is soooo insensitive! she calls my child "my ......." she posts pictures of my child without asking me and captioning it "my....." she makes unannounced visits. she texts me 7am to ask if my child is awake because she is visiting without asking if its okay. i am not selfish with my child i give time to my mother in law to have my child everyday for 3 hrs. i stay in our room so i can avoid being upset and for everyone's sake and my sanity. because i feel that i need to, after all they helped me and let me stay in their house. I start work this coming monday, my husband and i agreed she'll watch over till my husband starts his regular night shift (just landed a hospital job and orientation starts the same time i come back to work) and since she works from home. she texted me yesterday asking if my child is awake and "telling" me she's on her way thank God we were out of the house. I responded with "we're not home, and you'll have my child all by yourself next week, we need this quality time" she didnt respond. today she came to the house, i told my husband we needed to get out of the house or ill go crazy on her she's just pushing my buttons we went out she keeps texting and calling asking if were on our way back, ignoring her thought she left the house. came home, she's still waiting. we gave her 10 minutes. She left and came back, i can't even have a poker face today with her. im soo irritated, my child is now almost 3 months and is very responsive she acts like she had just unlocked all milestones. she like telling my child "why you have to leave auntie? you can stay here with me." and even when i tried taking my child from her she'll be like "can you not?" and my response was "you'll have her the whole week!" and then she told me this "why, she's with you at night." wtf is that?????