Needing some advice 😔😔

I'm almost 16 weeks pregnant, the baby was planned sort of and my partner and I are really happy that were having a baby.

At the weekend I snooped on his laptop just out of idle curiosity, he was in town at the time. I found messages on his Facebook to a girl I don't know of and they were of a sexual nature, him inviting her to meet up with him as 'he needed his cock sucked asap' so I rang him and got him to come home immediately so I could confront him about it. When I did, he said she was a friend and that it was a bit of 'banter' that had gone too far. I was upset because I ALWAYS want to have sex and have a very high sex drive but he always turns me down. I also found evidence that he was on a dating website and speaking to hundreds of local women, arranged to meet with a few of them but never actually went to meet them.

When I confronted him about all of this he just says that he feels unwanted by me and that he doesn't get any affection or love from me which I can't understand why. 😭 He assures me that it won't happen again and that he loves me more than anything and has given me full access to his phone but I just feel like I can't believe him.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel so hurt and betrayed and I don't know if I can trust him again. Has anyone else ever had to deal with anything like this? How did you get over it?

I want to stay with him not just for the baby but because I love him so much. But I feel so heartbroken 😭😭