Any advice? 😞

So I just turned 20 and I'm living with my bf right now. We've had our ups and downs in the past of course. We've always had a long distant relationship. I feel like I've always put in way more effort. So today when we're talking, I said what would you have done if we went to school together like high school or something? He said to me that he would've curved me because I'm annoying...that kinda made me upset and maybe I shouldn't of got upset over it but whatever. Anyways, so lately I just feel like I'm so young and I'm missing out on stuff...I love him I really do but I wanna go out on dates (I don't desire to have many partners or go around having sex or anything like that) I just wanna go out, I wanna be picked up and surprised here and there with sweet gestures. I'm not saying he's not a good bf because he is but ever since he's been back from the military he hasn't been the same...he lacks when it comes to romance and he lacks on how to be a partner to me sometimes...I honestly just feel so conflicted and I don't know what to do at this point. Any advice from you sweet ladies would help. ❤️