"FIL knows best

"Tom" we'll call him.

Those with twins know a family runs a little differently while the twins are infants. Bedtime, feeding, cuddling is all different.

My FIL seems to think since he's had 1 child he know everything there is to know.

Last night my husband called him and he got on a rant about how we shouldn't hold them while they sleep, they shouldn't be sleeping together, we should let them cry it out. He is literally 1,000 miles away. I like to cuddle MY baby here and there maybe 2 naps a week a piece and seriously not as much as I would like to. When I do I treasure the time because I know it doesn't last long. I don't do it often because I don't want them to get used to it. I'll take a picture for our families to see and post it on FB. 98% of the time the twins are sleeping in their crib or play pen, he don't see that because I don't post it often. They DON'T cry at bedtime so there is no "let them cry it out". And when they DID cry I went in, gave them a binky and they were out. Letting 1 twin cry it out is completely unfair to the other twin sharing the room and frankly I don't want to deal with 2 babies crying because they are keeping each other up. They are AMAZING sleepers and I don't want to change anything about it because the speep so well, from 9pm to 7:30 with no issues. My husband is trying to tell him this but he simply just doesn't want to hear it. He's going off of what photos I put on FB maybe 2 times a week. And as for them sleeping together he knows we JUST moved and unfortunately the movers have their cribs. We had no room in our car for 2 play pens much less 2 cribs.

I really don't know what can be done except for saying yup...yup...yup... and ignore it. If He'll lash out at my husband and it's seriously not fair. But because my husband is the only child he feels obligated to keep him happy. He is a good man but when it comes to babies and even my husband he seems very controlling.

Deleting him off FB isn't an option because I want him to see his grandchildren.