After my third daughter, I was told I would not be able to have any more children, much to the relief of my husband’s family and my own who think that the three we have are far too much. I have always found this odd as our children are rarely babysat, well fed, housed, clothed, receive great marks and comments in school, etc. but when I announced my third pregnancy my father literally asked me “do you enjoy killing me”. And my brother in law said “I cannot deal with you guys having another child” even though he almost never sees them.

Well, we wanted one more baby but as I said, I was told I could not have any more children due to circumstances with my uterine lining suddenly and chronically being too thin to support a pregnancy. My husband and I were both very disappointed but our families were happy, and with my last baby starting pre k in two years I enrolled to start school again. The day after my complete enrollment we found out I was pregnant with baby #4 (I found out before missed period).

Due to the history of apparent dramatic meltdowns with my family and my pregnancies, I feel reluctant to let them know, and have kept this pregnancy a secret for weeks when usually I announce as soon as I’m aware.

I know I’m old enough that they really shouldn’t have any sway over my life, but I can’t shake this guilty feeling and don’t know when or if I want to tell them until I absolutely have to.

Has anyone else had these problems? Any advice?