Have to vent ... unsupportive family

So we’re trying for our third baby ... my mom(who has three kids of her own) had made a comment to my husband that she thinks it’s crazy for us to try for a third bc of child care costs, (she also already let me

Know her car won’t fit that may car seats in her car) she chimed in that my dad also felt that way as well(which I find hard to believe, since he is very supportive) We would only be paying the extra for about a year until my oldest is in school. What is irritating to me is my mom stopped working 5 month into being pregnant with her third. She always tells me how unsupportive her mother was when she as talking about having a second kid. Both my husband and I work, we have good paying jobs. If we choose to have another child, shouldn’t she be supportive? She doesn’t have to pay anything and it’s another grandkid. Part of me feels like she doesn’t want me to have another bc she gets overwhelmed with watching just my two. She also plays favorites with my first. She constantly buys her clothes and toys, spoils her, lets her do whatever she wants. if my oldest did something that she needs to be put in timeout for or scolded for bad behavior, she tells her “oh come see Grandma, it’s ok!”. but doesn’t do that for my youngest, ex: one day my youngest was crying because she wanted her to hold her and she raised her voice and said “Jesus Christ! Enough already!” My youngest started crying. If my Oldest wants to be held or wants her attention she will put my youngest down, my youngest will cry and reach out for her. She doesn’t correct her that she needs to spend time with the baby too. I always have to remind my oldest that grandma has enough love for both of them and she has to share her time. She never comes over and gets mad if I don’t want to drag both my girls out to her house every time she wants me to. I’m just so frustrated and irritated that she had the balls to say that to my husband about our choice to have a third baby 😡😡I could see if we were behind on bills and barely making ends meet but I work because I enjoy my job, not because I HAVE to work. She also makes comments to him about how much I make. I’m ready to explode. And you can never say anything to her about anything. Ok end rant ... I think 🙄