Should he stay or go

I decide to let the father of my child back into my life and home. ((Long story short we lost a 5 year old child together and hadn’t seen each other since the funeral … 6 years ago)) We’ve both had our ups and downs, together and apart … and I may be in a better head space than him … but the past three years he’s seems to be stuck in this rut.

So I offered my home and to help him get on his feet. He goes to a clinic ((that he does NOT need)) to keep him from using drugs but he’s been clean for years … I feel it’s a crutch ((but that’s my personal opinion - that he feels is wrong)).

He basically came to my state to start fresh and new and get custody of the daughter he does have ((moms not the best and CPS is involved)) but now that he’s needed to work sooner rather than later he consistently complains, says he wants to go back to our home state ((I’ve been in the south 3 years)), stays in bed ALL day while I work. He has done the dishes once and the laundry twice.

Of course the list of complaints can go on and there are good things too … but I am here to vent a little and get some great advice. I don’t know how to tell him enough is enough. He plays victim and wants people to feel sorry for him then says “I don’t want a pity party … I’ve just been … [insert tragedies of life].”

He claims to be spiritual and that he follows in the Lords footsteps ((but then says it’s doubtful)) and has never called me out of my name or anything crazy like that, but has called me selfish ((as I’ve paid for everything these last 45 days including his clinic that’s $105/wk)). I want him to work and start taking care of himself. Get the f*ck out of the bed. I told him, this has been your life for 3 years, doing nothing and being negative. You’re here for something new, not old.

Help me ladies!! What should I do!? How to I help him help himself??