Domestic violence my story

vanessa

Hey ladies! I thought I'd write my story about assault, abuse, and rape all together my whole entire story compiled into one! Get comfortable cause it will be awhile. So at 16 years old I had thought I met the love of my life we met off of course tinder. The same night I met Tristan aka my ex really don't give a fuck if I use his name or not cause he's worthless we talked on the phone exchanged numbers and he was very much a drug addict through our whole relationship whatever he could get his hands on he would use first RED 🚩 was he said I LOVE YOU granted he was high off codeine that night. We went on a date and it was perfect he was everything to me and we both fell in love within weeks 🙄 little did I know the things that affect me now would have to do with him. He was very obsessive very manipulative and very violent, I wasn't aloud to wear certain clothes have certain friends or say certain words. I wasn't aloud to go out without his permission and I could because I knew I'd pay for that later if I didn't listen to his rules. First time we had sex was the first few months of us dating TRIGGER WARNING. I came over to his house and met his mom me and his mom were best friends she was like my mom almost. They lived in a apartment and he took me to his room closed the door which I didn't think much of because he had 7 year old sister and his mom so privacy aswell as watching movies.. that's not what happened I told him I wasn't ready but he was very persistent on having sex he was a bigger guy a lot shorter but a lot stronger. Needless to say I ended up having peer pressured sex with him. The second time I remember vividly not necessarily rape but more assault. His little sister me and him were in his room together watching tv his little sister Maggie was in the floor while we were cuddling in bed together he said to me and with the most evil grin give me head I simply shook my head since his little sister was in the room at the time and I wasn't ready. He started to become what seemed to be aggressive and angry about it so I did as I was told AGAIN. The second time he raped me it was in the woods I live next to a trail and the both of us liked going out on walks so we're walking down the trail and he said let's have sex in the woods I said hell no but he won that fight real quick as he pulled me into the woods and bent me over until he finished I was so ashamed and after that me him and my mom and dad went out to eat together. Third time was definelty another one to remember. He picked me up so I could go with him to get his senior pictures done and my dumbass went with. His mom was already at the location cause he had his moms vehicle and the mom was with her ex boyfriend along with Maggie. Tristan didn't stay long for his senior pictures and we ended up going back to his apartment just us his mom went to go get pizza for us and he raped me right we got home I remember he heard his mom come in the door and he threw my clothes at me telling me to fucking get dressed. I just nodded and did as I was told and had to act like nothing had happened. My last encounter had happened the begging game of this summer I went out with an old friend I got set up with once in 8th grade but he blew me off on that date. He messaged me saying we should hang out so I did. We went to the beach he wasn't discrete at all about fingering me. He told me that we should lock the bathroom doors and mess around I said no. Another red flag that Drew gave me was I told him about my depression I'm fairly open about it tbh. He said hit me up when you want to know how many pills to take and he smirked. I brushed it off like it was nothing. He lived with his grandparents at the time. He told me you want to go back to "his place" aka his grandparents place and I agreed thinking nothing to do at the beach why not watch a movie. I remember he pulled up and we got out walked in and his grandpa had the face of oh god here we go again not another one didn't even say I just gave me a weak smile as drew led me downstairs to his area. He ripped of my bikini bottoms now complete trash and pushed me onto the bed which was completely unexpected he got undressed and raped me vaginally and anally with and without a condom until he finished. I screamed and I cried thinking this was true he strangled me and the next morning woke up with strangulation bruises on my neck. My point is ladies you need to know your worth cause every single one of you badass bitches out here is worth it! And if he doesn't respect you. Say "boy bye" he's not worth your time or tears and mascara isn't cheap ladies haha. Stay strong lovelies your all gorgeous and don't forget it. If you need someone you can always message me. Sorry if it was very long sending love❤️❤️