How do you resolve conflict?

Question

My boyfriend is an amazing guy. We get along great and we always encourage each other to better ourselves. We’ve been together for 2 years now. There’s something that has always bothered me though and that’s weed. I’ve done so much research on marijuana and I do believe it has some really negative side effects. I do also know it has some benefits. My boyfriend loves to smoke with his friends and says it’s a social thing. I just don’t understand that. I also really dont need anyone lecturing to me about how weed is perfectly fine. Personally, I’m just not a fan of weed and that’s OKAY. I’ve never ever tried to change my boyfriend or judged him for it. All I’m asking is how do you resolve something with your SO? We love each other, but I honestly feel like he loves his weed more. I’m turning 21 this week and I’m already thinking about my future, what I want to do with my life, career, getting married, having kids one day. My boyfriend is not thinking about any of that yet. He just wants to sit around and get high with his buddies. Any tips?

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its really hard to be with a person if your goals are that far unaligned. its not even totally the weed thing. that could be anything. plenty of women on here complain about how they want to grow up but their boyfriends are content playing video games in their parents basement or whatever. you need to talk to him about how you dont feel important and youre worried that he doesnt want the same things. honestly i felt the same a lot with my previous relationship. i hated living at home but he was happy to stay at his parents. i didnt want to move in with him. we both smoked but i never needed it like he did. its an uncomfortable feeling and you should talk

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My bf also smokes. I not a huge fan and I don't quite get the point. Honestly I would much rather have him smoke weed than cigirrates. He doesn't smoke when we are together and he tries to take the smell and taste away if he's gonna smoke before being with me. I never had a problem with him about it and just like you I don't judge him for that. No partner is gonna be completely perfect for us. I would suggest to talk to him if you haven't already and compromise. I do know how it feels when he goes out and smokes with his friends but if that's all he is doing and not working for his future then you need to talk to him or leave him.

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Me and my boyfriend smoke together. And it’s a great way to bond. Plus high sex is amazing. 
Be more open minded. It’s not something you can resolve because that’s him and resolving would mean changing him as a person. 
I know from a smokers point of view, it’s really not something you can make happen. 
I’ve never been with guys that didn’t smoke. I think that if my guy wasn’t ok with me smoking I would really consider if being with the person is the right thing. Since they wouldn’t be able to accept me for all of me. Smoking for me is a big part of my life. I couldn’t just let it go. Plus just saying stop is really not going to work. 
I’m just telling you my perspective on the situation and how it’s something you have to accept because it’s part of that person

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You should have A talk with him

How do you resolve conflict?

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