***UPDATE*** To the woman who had my Husband first

There are so many things that lay heavy on my heart. Things I wish I could tell you.

I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. We went to different schools, and wouldn’t have been in the same grade anyway. Despite this, I feel I do know you because we have one thing in common, if only that one.

You were my husbands first. His first love, his first date, his first sex. You were his first relationship and you hurt him deeply. You tried to convince him that his caring nature (which I treasure beyond anything in this world) was unattractive and somehow a bad thing. You used him for what he could give you and then left him in the dirt.

Did you know that he had been waiting for marriage? That he had been waiting to date until he was ready to get married? He didn’t want a broken heart and he didn’t want to break a woman’s heart by getting in and out of relationships carelessly. He wanted you to be the one, and when you weren’t, a part of him broke.

When I came back into his life, this amazing man who I have loved for so long, guarded his heart from me. He couldn’t help but be suspicious and his suspicions hurt and confused me.

You have hurt him and because you have hurt him and he is mine, you have hurt me. It’s so hard to know that I will never know what his face was when he first felt a woman’s touch. Or what was on his heart when he first fell asleep in a woman’s arms.

I want to thank you for letting him go, though. You may think I am getting your “sloppy seconds” but really you are the loser here. You let the best thing that God ever gave you go. You let him go, and that let him come to me in Gods time. Thank you. And for what it’s worth, thank you for giving him those experiences and what love you could. He is a better man, for having gone through what you put him through.

If I had not had my ex, and he had not had his, we wouldn’t appreciate eachother the way we do. We don’t take a single word, action, or day for granted now.

Thank you,

Woman who loves the man you let go

***Update***

I am astounded by the amount of attention this has gotten. I really never thought it would even get an upvote, so thank you ALL! I want to say I appreciate EVERYBODY’S responses! Thank you so much!

I wrote this as a cathartic release, nothing else. Posting it was simply a way of releasing the emotion “on the wind” as it were. I didn’t include details of what happened in his life or my life that made me feel so strongly about this subject. I will not post those things now, either. I will say this, though: this letter was almost a letter to two people. This letter was written in the direction of my husbands ex, but it was also written to MY ex. I struggle daily to overcome emotional abuse that I went through for way too long. However, I realize that it was truly a blessing! I am a kinder person for having gone through something like that! This letter was a thank you, not only to the woman who hurt him, but to the man who hurt me. The ones who let us go and in so doing, let us find eachother.

Now I am free of it. Writing this letter has freed me emotionally and I am just glad that you guys were here to listen and support me in this.

Thank you, ladies!!