not the baby blues

I'm am so depressed. it's been a year since my husband and I have had sex. our baby is 4 months old. my husband will not do anything about his ED. I DONT FEEL LIKE A WOMAN ANYMORE! I don't want to hurt his feelings but I can't keep pretending everything is ok.i have cried may nights and days over this. what can I do to help him. I want my husband back before the ED was a major problem.