Wondering, I'm plus size

But when a man asks "oh babe you should wear something like that for me"

But in you're head your like um, you know I'm a big girl right?

I guess the question is do they really get off to it? Or what if they think they do then they see you and you're just gross looking. I've never really had someone make me feel like I could wear anything. Yea, I should be more confident but it's hard when people around make it worse. Are there men that actually like bigger girls in stuff like that?