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I need advise from someone that doesn’t know me and doesn’t know my life on a personal level so I thought I’d ask here. I’m having some problems with my mom(stepmom bio mom not in picture at moment). She has been my mother since I was young but we have always had problems. We fought all the time and I wasn’t treated fairly because of being a step child even though in her eyes she has done nothing wrong. Fast forward to the last couple years I moved out into at the time my boyfriends house my senior year of high school. He was in school too. And I’ve lived with him and his parents since. She kept telling me I was making a big mistake and that I would not like not being home. About 9 months later he proposed to me. I said yes. Again she didn’t like it and thought I was making a mistake. Yes it was fast as we weren’t together a year yet. This was 2016. Now 2017 things started getting better and we started talking more again. Until the day I told her I was getting married this year. We were planning on it being next year but in June I found out that I am pregnant. She obviously figured it out right away and she lectured me and him about it. She said she was happy but she didn’t want us getting married. She wasn’t as supportive as I would have hoped. Now planning our wedding and being super sick from being pregnant I was really stressed. On top of that my mom was getting mad because I was having my MIL helping me plan the wedding. It was more convenient and my mom wasn’t even supportive of us getting married in the first place. Now my wedding day we were having an early rehearsal. She threw a fit the whole time and wouldn’t participate in anything. I’ve tried including her in the wedding and asking her for help with things like she wanted but she would say no. So I stopped trying. I cried before getting ready and just wanted it to be over.

Now she was s

till mad about it a month later so I didn’t talk to her. I tried texting her saying I hope her new job is going good and just trying to be nice. She never answered me and I know she’s always on her phone. Now I went up to her house to help my dad with something and before that I told her when she was getting mad about something towards me that I don’t even remember about what and I told her that if she doesn’t stop with the drama then my kid and I will not be around.

Her and my dad are going through stuff and I don’t want to be involved. So when I saw her she was being nice and saying that there wouldn’t be any drama. So I decided to give it another her chance. Now a week later we went to our anatomy scan and found out we are having a little girl. We discussed names and my husband wanted her middle name to be the same as his moms. He’s a total mommas boy but she has helped us so much and is leaving her job to be home with me and the baby. She is probably one of my best friends. So I of course agreed. Plus the name is being passed down more now too. Well I told my mom the name(Hailey Kathleen) and she again got butt hurt about it. Kathleen is also my dads moms name. She told me that well his parents will be happy about the name.

Now a day later I was planning on helping my dad move his tool box from his work that is shutting down to their house because he needed my husbands truck since it’s so heavy. Well I get a message from her saying that I cannot help him bring his stuff because she doesn’t want it there and that her mother is going to be in town and she doesn’t want us to be bringing stuff there then. So basically I can’t help my dad get his things home from his work before they close?

It just so irritating that no matter what I do she gets mad about it and tries to control everything. My husband is getting really tired of it(they don’t get along) and I am too. He really wants me to just cut it off wig her till she gets her stuff together. I’m starting to think it might be the best choice but again I would want our baby knowing who her grandma is and I want her to be able to see her grandchild. But I’m kinda stuck on what to do. It’s causing me unnecessary stress. I’m 19 weeks so we are getting things ready for the baby and the baby shower. I just need some advise on what to do. If I should just cut her out or keep trying? My sister is the same way as her mom so it would be her too. I just don’t know. Thank you if you have read all the way to here.

****before anyone comments about it yes I know in some messages I didn’t sound the nicest. I was irritated and not feeling good during that time as I was still in my first trimester of pregnancy and it was miserable. I know I should have worded things better but it is what it is****