ok so ive come across a wide range of guys and im still confused on the choices they make. Being a plus sized female I understand I am already categorized as ugly, whether i think i am or not. Fat=Ugly in this society. Im used to it and i ignore it. I know im beautiful. So my question is Why do guys always say they love plus size women or at least have feelings for me, but then end up with a smaller female or another female in general ? They always say glorious things about me, but they always go another route. So im all confused as to what is the issue. Most of the guys Ive been friends with even confessed their feelings for me, but they always said they didnt want to ruin our friendship. Is it me? Are they too insecure to be with a plus size chick? They would rather talk to me low key than to show the world our relationship and its irritating. If you so into me and plus size women, why is it an issue with actually pursuing a relationship with me? Do anybody have an idea?