Okay you guys so I have been talking to a guy and at some level been intimate with a guy. But we established that we would never date and we kind of gravitated into doing physical stuff once in a while. We became super close and I grew feeling for him. BUT THEN HE GOT A GIRLFRIEND. Things stopped although we do still talk about a lot of personal things and we are there for each other. After he got a girlfriend I began talking to one of our common friends. This second guy and I became close. He has established that he wants something with me. However, he does have a girlfriend back in his home town and this has stopped me from really going with him (he told me he will break up with her over thanksgiving break). Aside from this the first guy which I still have feelings for has to some degree pushed me away and told our friend that he has to pick between him and myself. This I find completely unfair as he has someone else and has made it clear that he wouldn't be with me but I can't help my feelings for him. The second guy has been really understanding. He knows how much this confuses me and he knows I would not be able to be in a relationship with him if it meant lossing one of the closest friends. I do not know what to do and this has me so stressed.