Curious for anyone who shares joint custody in California.

I like traveling and have taken my daughter in various states and overseas in the past. I've always gotten my ex-husband's consent and give him all the flight and address information.

Recently, he's been even more difficult to get a response from and it seems like he is just trying to make it difficult. He asks questions with "concern" to her safety overseas, and even when I answer, his responses are snide and frustrating.

We don't have this piece addressed in our existing custody orders. When I look online at the CA Family Services website, it says you can go to court if you've tried contacting the other parent and can't get a response, but it doesn't address if they say no with unfounded reasoning.

I think travel is important to build character and experience for my daughter, and I feel like he's sitting pretty in the U.S. as if bad things only happen outside of it. Since my daughter was 6, he's let her play outside by herself unsupervised for hours. He knows I'm not comfortable with it, but does it anyway. So I find it ironic that he's selective with his concern for her safety. He doesn't travel so I feel like his views are skewed and ignorant to how real or perceived threats may be.

I'm going to call my lawyer today to ask about how to get a better setup so I'm not banned from traveling with her forever. She 8 now and already asks why she doesn't come on some trips that we (my current husband and I) haven't been able to take her on. My lawyer is slow to respond so I'm hoping for others experiences.