Am I️ ruining my kid??

Question

So my girl has NEVER been a good sleeper. She’ll be six months next week. 
She hit the 4 month sleep regression hard. I started co-sleeping at least part of the night when I️ went back to work full time. Now I️ can’t put her down at all. She pops awake crying and does not self soothe. 
I’ve been home with her for 4 days and today unless I’m breastfeeding her, she’s fussing. I️ feel like I’m ruining her! What should I do??

Answer

You are by no means ruining your child. You have to do what you have to do to get some sleep. Believe me when I say she will grow out of it. I slept with my son on my chest for the first few months, then transitioned him to a swing, then a bouncer, then finally the crib. He will be one in a few weeks and I still bring him your bed with me if he wakes up too early. He still goes to bed in his crib by himself just fine every night. They eventually figure out sleep in wonderful and you will miss the snuggles.

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I could have written this post 9 months ago. My son was a terrible sleeper for MONTHS. Around 10/11 months I was just resigned to believing he was going to cosleep and night nurse for all time. But I night weaned him, while cosleeping, and like some kind of miracle, he just stopped waking up, and then, no longer waking up, he started to actually prefer sleeping alone. He’s 15 months now and puts himself to sleep, all night. It gets better, and if you aren’t at your wits end, there’s no harm in doing whatever works for you and your baby. You can absolutely take a gentle approach and your kid will still get to an independent sleep pattern in their own time.

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You are not ruining your baby! Try absolutely everything and if nothing works I would do the CIO Method. I had similar issues with my little one and I eventually after 3 months of not listening to my doctor and would try anything else I finally tried what my doctor told me to do and do the CIO and it’s rough. 45 minutes of crying is torture. But after a week she self soothes and now almost 6 months later we have no issues going to sleep. She fell asleep on the floor the other day after running like a wild child for 30 minutes straight 😂

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Well, just think of it this way: nothing lasts forever. My daughter was the same at that age. She’s 2.5 now and mostly sleeps all night in her room. Sometimes she comes to us in the very early morning and crawls in our bed and goes back to sleep. Your little one is still very young. It will take time (and a bit of discipline on your part) before you’re both ready to sleep apart from each other. I definitely don’t think you are ruining her! She just needs her mama.

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We hit a terrible regression at 6 months. The worst!!! It seemed to start all of a sudden and lasted a really long time too. Blah! But my daughter did get over it, so try not to worry too much. If possible try to get a night off and get some sleep.
This isn’t a good fit for everyone, but we did sleep train at 11 months and it has been the best decision we made. I think we could have done it earlier, like at eight months. Idk about 6 though because she was still waking up to eat...

Am I️ ruining my kid??

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