Ghosting my parents??? (Read thoroughly)

I recently found out how crazy my parents are. I’m 22, married, and live an hour away from them. I used to think they were a little strict while growing up (odd rules about dating and friendships etc) but as soon as I moved out, I realized what kind of people they really are.

They are; verbally and mentally abusive, leeches, clingers, manipulators, classist, self righteous, narcissists.

They verbally and mentally abuse my brother, they manipulate him into giving them money. They believe everyone who lives in trailer parks are drug addicts, thieves, and lowlifes.

They bash my husband because he thinks differently than them.

They treat me like I still live under their roof so I should do as they say.

They have no respect for privacy.

They treat my brother like he’s 10 when he’s 27 (and yes, he still lives with them. He has 0 confidence because of their abuse.)

They treat ppl with less money than them like dumb hicks (aka, my husband.)

I am ready to cut all ties with my parents and only talk to them on special occasion. I still love them because they are my parents. But I feel the need to cut them out of my life for my mentality. They still find ways to get into my brain and manipulate me. My husband and I feel like they are trying to sabotage our marriage by making me believe he doesn’t care about me when he is the one that cares more about me than them. He actually respects me, all of me. They just want to control me.

Am I right in considering this? Should I ghost them out?

Update: for those who are wondering what other reasons they don’t like my husband.

He moved me an hour away from them (it was my idea).

He doesn’t do everything they tell him to do. (Like: clean the house for your wife, take your wife on dates, visit us more. He does things for me but if he doesn’t do one thing for me that they ordered him to do, he’s suddenly the worst husband in the world)

He’s “disrespectful.” (Just by saying “no” when they tell him to do something. And he is always polite.)

He doesn’t take me to the doctors whenever I feel the slightest bit sick. (Even though I don’t mind it. I’m stubborn about it too.)

He takes naps too much for their liking (he goes to school and work full time.)

He wants to move out of state.

He likes dogs.

He likes country music and trucks.

He doesn’t like vaccines. (They ignore that he doesn’t mind some vaccines, they focus more on the fact that he doesn’t like the flu or certain vaccines that babies get.)

(He’s not completely against vaccines he just likes being careful about them. He became more so when I told him that I got gardisil (?) vaccine when I was 13 and we recently heard about so many girls who got it that became infertile.)

And, the big one; he doesn’t like the same dating rules my dad made.

My dad decided for me that I would court and not date, even though the rule was that I would not court until I was 18. Courting is dating with the purpose of marriage. It’s like a close friendship more than a relationship.

No kissing (not even on the cheek or forehead, nor hands)

No hugging

No holding hands

Absolutely no physical contact.

No sex. (Ties into the no kissing or physical contact.)

We broke ALL the rules except sex by the time we got engaged (we waited until we were close to our wedding day to have sex, the only rule we regret breaking). My parents only know about the kissing, hugging, and holding hands.

As soon as my dad knew about the kissing, he went crazy.

And since then, has had zero respect for my husband. Even though I told him that I wanted the kissing and hand holding. I wanted to be able to touch my boyfriend.

And now, after almost 2 years of living away from my parents, my dad still thinks he can lecture me about the physical contact thing.

“If you two hadn’t broke the rules, you wouldn’t have the problems you have today.”

We have no problems. We barely argue. We are happy and they refuse to believe it.