My boyfriend’s mother is literally driving me insane. When he lived on his own she would always be calling him and he would ignore her calls, I encouraged him to answer her calls and go and hang out with his family but he didn’t want to because they were annoying. Then one day his mom literally said I wouldn’t allow him to spend time with his family. Wait what??? That’s a nice assumption but it’s not very true 😂 he told her I had nothing to do with it and that he avoids them because they’re so controlling.

After a lot of considering we decide we wanted to start a family. So soon after I quit taking birth control he ends up unemployed and had to move back in with his parents, perfect timing because that’s when I got pregnant 😒 So he tells his parents that we’re going to have a baby together and she kept dropping hints to me that she didn’t approve and that it was such a bad idea. Finally I just confronted her and said “what are you asking me to do here?” She said she wasn’t trying to imply anything, just that it wasn’t a smart move. The next day we told his dad and his dad said that while he doesn’t think it was a good decision for us to decide that without consulting anyone, as if it was even their fucking choice 🤔, that he’ll support us to the best of his abilities. Literally as soon as I leave their house his mom starts talking about how I need to get an abortion. His dad went along with it saying that our relationship wouldn’t work out for another six months if we went through with having the baby, that we would be terrible parents, his mom even said that their entire family would disown him, he wouldn’t have anywhere to live. I held my ground and decided I’m keeping my baby regardless of what they think of it. They literally said that he spent too much time with my family, which he did spend a lot of time here because they literally drove him insane at his house, they said that my family brainwashed him into this for our own hidden agenda or something. A few weeks later and his parents are done being mad about us having a baby, but me and him literally got to spend no time together. Because I wasn’t welcome at their house and they made him spend so much time with them per week otherwise he can’t stay there. Literally if he wanted somewhere to stay he had to be there six out of seven nights and if he even spent two nights at my house too close together they were not happy. Keep in mind we are grown ass adults. 🙃

On my birthday his mom made me cupcakes which was awkward as hell and she teared up and told me she regrets everything she said, blah blah blah. At this point he had landed an amazing job, we knew that we could easily be moved in my time the baby comes.

We would spend a few nights at my house, then a few at his house, his family was super chill for a while because I think they knew that they had no right to say what they did.

As soon as this awkward and peaceful phase passes she got very overbearing. Always telling me how I should be doing my eyebrows, what skin care routine I should be using, telling me I need to exercise more, she’s literally telling me how I’m going to potty train my kid, I’m only six months pregnant, we’re not even there yet and even if we were it’s not your decision, telling me what prenatals I should take and then buying them for me without even asking if I want to try them.

With the holidays coming up my boyfriend and I already know that his extended family is going to ask how his parents took the news and he doesn’t want to lie to them and say that they took it great, he’s going to be honest and tell them what was said and i’m extremely anxious about this because I almost rather have the rest of his family not know that his parents said that stuff. To be honest, I think it will be kind of like reliving it all over again having to talk about the vulgar things they said.

So anyways his mom is just she interrupts every conversation we have or whatever we’re doing and she’s always telling us what we should be doing and how we should be living our life, I’m always super respectful because we’re in her house, I’m obviously not going to tell her to fuck off.

Now she’s trying to get me to move in, which I just don’t feel right doing, I don’t have a good relationship with much of his family, mainly just because none of them talk to me and when they do talk to me it’s just his mom telling me where I should be working and how I should be handling my pregnancy. As much as I want to live with him I seriously don’t think I can live with this lady. She stresses me out so much it’s ridiculous.

So the other day she told me that she got me a facial with a lady that she works with and I really didn’t want to go because my pregnancy acne is really bad and I have an appointment to see my dermatologist next week, I’m not really trying to have more products and more shit done to my face, my pregnancy acne is extremely painful and my skin is supersensitive right now, I just need to let it be until I speak with my dermatologist and figure out a game plan. She really wouldn’t take no for an answer so finally I told her I’d go and we set an appointment up for yesterday. Well the day of the appointment comes and I called her and said “hey I’m not feeling very good my stomach kind of hurts, but I know that usually when you cancel an appointment on the day of you get charged for a percentage of it, since she’s your friend are you able to cancel for free, I’d rather not go today but I don’t want you to have to pay extra, so if that’s the case I will stick it out.” She was super sweet and said not to worry about it that she can reschedule free of charge. Well then today my boyfriend goes home just for an hour so that he could shower and eat and look for his glasses before we had to be to a movie at 4 o’clock, he gets to my house at 3:50, he hasn’t eaten and doesn’t have his glasses. He said that as soon as he walked in the door his mom started talking about me and she literally wouldn’t let him get in the shower. She was following him around the house and when he got to the bathroom she said not to shut the door in her face because they need to talk. So we decide to push back so he had time to eat and he could go back and get his glasses, and in the meantime he was telling me what all she said. Apparently she said that six months in to a pregnancy you should be feeling the best you have the whole time, that morning sickness should be gone, fatigue should be gone, your feet shouldn’t hurt, that basically should feel fine. OK keep in mind I never said that I had morning sickness, even at the beginning of my pregnancy I never got it, but it’s a known fact that around this time of your pregnancy some of your first trimester symptoms may come back, either way I still never said that I had morning sickness. My stomach aches sometimes, I have a baby growing in me, that doesn’t always feel good, sometimes things ache, but overall my stomach was hurting because my boyfriend has been really rough with me, he tries to be gentle around my stomach but sometimes when we lay in bed he’ll rest his arm over my stomach not realizing that my bump is starting to get sensitive, having a heavy arm on my unprotected stomach hurts, and occasionally when he rolls over in bed he’ll accidentally elbow me in the stomach or something, between him forgetting I have a huge bump and my baby girl kicking me, it’s like I’m being beat up by the inside and out 😅 Overall I’m just not used to having this bump is what I’m trying to say. It’s not a very good feeling, I’m always bumping it on things so my stomach honestly just fucking hurts, plus on the inside they’re so much change going on. Like my organs are being pushed out of the way and my uterus is growing, is that not supposed to hurt just a lil? She has two boys so I don’t know how the fuck she doesn’t know this. So then she starts telling him how she thinks I canceled the appointment because I have social anxiety, and how I just didn’t want to meet her coworker. I do have anxiety but it’s not that bad, I honestly canceled because my stomach was aching, I got up and ate some toast for breakfast and when I laid back down my stomach wasn’t feeling good. Pregnant or not have you neverJust ate something that didn’t sit right?

Now she feels that she needs to sit down and talk with me. (she does this literally like twice a week) She thinks that all my problems are her business. If I have morning sickness she has some magical remedy to walk me through it, or if I have a headache that it must be my stress from home getting to me, and now she thinks she can relate to me because she also has anxiety sometimes and talking about it makes *her* feel better. I literally get anxiety just talking about my anxiety, I’ve gone to therapist, and while they did help I don’t feel the need to see one anymore, I’m at a good point in my life, my anxiety is pretty low, other than the occasional stress from pregnancy hormones, but I swear to God almost all of my stress and anxiety comes from her, she’s constantly pissing me off, constantly telling me what to do, I can’t even sit in my car to pick my boyfriend up without her coming out there and feeling like she needs to have a heart-to-heart with me about something, most the time it’s just stupid shit like how when the baby is born we shouldn’t vaccinate them or else this and this will happen.

This entire story has just been a jumbled fucking mess, I literally can’t remember the timeline of all the time she pisses me off or has overstepped.