I’m 16 weeks pregnant and I’m going through something really bad. I’m a tall and skinny woman, but back in my teen years (from 10 to 16 years old), I got fat and was severely bullied because of that, so, even after I easily lost all the extra pounds (genetic helped, my father was really skinny, looked like a skeleton), I still got pretty worried about my weight and paranoid, afraid and terrified of being fat again. Everyone from my family knows that. They all know how scared I am of being fat, that I’m always watching what I eat, of course, without being too extreme about it, especially now that I’m pregnant. I’m not anorexic, but I’m careful.

So the problem is: most of my family’s women are fat. My mom, my sister, my aunt. My aunt is going to do a bypass surgery at the end of the year, so now she’s kind of competitive with me. She’s always saying how she will be able to wear some kind of clothes and I won’t, because I’m pregnant and will be fat and she will be skinny. Today she said she has a T-shirt she wants to give to me because it’s too large for her, but will fit perfectly on me because of my pregnancy. I mean, my arms and legs are thin. My belly is ridiculously small for 16 weeks. She’s a very big woman! With fat arms and legs, face, boobs, everything. If the T-shirt is large for her, of course it will still be huge for me, even during my pregnancy! Like my first pregnancy, I’m not getting fat, just my belly is growing because of the baby, but she insists that she will be super skinny and I’ll gain a lot of weight. She’s a 54 year old woman! I’m 30, we’re all adults and I have no idea why she’s doing this. She knows me and knows how this fat thing affects me. I can feel some evil on her comments. When she told me about her bypass surgery, I said I had her back, I totally supported her with the decision she made while everybody else was trying to put her down and make her give up!! I got happy for her! This that she’s doing to me is annoying me so much! She just can’t stop emphasizing that she thinks I’ll be fat and she’ll be skinny. I’m pissed!! Am I crazy or is she competing with me like a teenager??