I found out I was pregnant the day after I left my ex. It was a very unhealthy, manipulative, and abusive relationship. He is a very unstable person that drinks too much and shows his anger easily. My ex has a 9 year old son who he sees often, but will drink and smoke marijuana in front of when he’s over (at his moms house). I know you may say I’m stupid for having a child with him, but sometimes you turn your eye at the beginning and I tried. I did tell him I was pregnant and tried giving him opportunity to be involved with the baby and I. He was never concerned about the baby whenever we would meet to discuss the progress of the baby or show ultrasound photos. Every time we met he would start fights about how I ended the relationship and I’m not a perfect person. He bailed on plans a few times to get stuff for the baby. I decided after much thought, that it is best he not be involved. He is living with his mother in a very unhealthy environment and I couldn’t take the stress of fighting and him trying to control me during this pregnancy. His mom however keeps trying to contact me. She’s never done anything wrong, she’s just asking if I need anything/how I’m doing. I have the hardest time responding because I know she will tell my ex things. I know this is a tough situation, but has anyone been through something similar? Does anyone have advice? I planned on riding it out and seeing if he makes an effort to take me to court but I also feel bad because I know this little girl has another side of family as well. I just found out yesterday I was having a girl and as overjoyed as I was, I was also upset because part of me wanted to be able to share the news with her father. I just know it isn’t a good situation.