My sex life needs HELP

Ok so this is something I’ve never talked about except with my husband, it’s a little embarrassing and lately it’s been starting to mess with my sex drive.

It’s really hard for me to have an orgasm during sex, I’ll get close and then my head messes with me and it just doesn’t happen. My husband is so sweet about it and usually we use my vibrator after if i can’t but doing that EVERYTIME we have sex is not working. It’s boring and not as pleasurable as getting there during sex. I’ve suggested trying new things (toys new positions) but then when we actually start to have sex we revert to our usual routine. Plus the toys are great but still just not the same as getting there on your own. My husband is young and doesn’t have as much experience trying new and different things so it’s usually up to me to initiate it but lately I’ve lost the confidence.

Does anyone else have this issue? Or am I just a weirdo? Any suggestions? Positions?