Need to talk to someone

My husband and I have been married for 4 years, we have a 1yr old and a 6 weeks old. We live with my parents in the back house which is like a studio. Lately we have not been getting a long. It’s seems like every time I say something to him or do something, I’m doing it wrong or he takes it to offense. When we try to resolve it, it turns into a big fight and he lets me know how annoying I am or how I lack compassion and stuff. Yesterday he told me I get under his skin and I bother him because I told him to stop complaining about not getting a cookie. Yes a cookie. The other day he told me how...

I lack compassion

I annoy him

I bother him

I’m aggravating

My tone of voice is too aggressive

I do nothing

I’m dramatic

He mocks me in arguments and he gets so angry he is not listening to what I’m saying or what I’m trying to explain to him. Don’t get me wrong there are times I blow up and get offended but I don’t tear him down and I try to resolve it and Change the way I am. We haven’t been intimate because my uterus is still shrinking and it’s hard to want to when I feel like this. Is he hurtful and on edge lately because lack of intimacy, we are living In a tiny place or because we are still living with my parents? Someone please let me know this will pass or I’m just over reacting